long, long week. had a presentation to give this week that was as much presentation as it was deep dive discussion into my teams and culture of my district. it was great but the unknown prior to it was stressful. i have been with a lot of people this week, through prep sessions, meetings ect.. and all week i had done a great job with eating what i had packed or carefully selected off a menu. yesterday when we were all finished we went to a bar for a drink and a bit of decompression. when placing orders for drinks and apps i ordered a salad sans dressing and i then proceeded to listen to everyone saying aghh its no big deal, just let loose and enjoy that we are finished ect... i know that no one was trying to be mean or even recognize that they were acting like peer pressuring bullies but it sucked. i felt like i had to justify my decisions and why i cant just have a few nachos or fried green beans like everyone else - i suck at moderation and because of that i needed to have my salad and not bar food.
peer pressure at 38 who would have thought.
with everything going on this week i was in the groove with the gym and eating, i lost 6 pounds this week! 6 pounds!
total weight loss so far 26 pounds!!
congrats on the weight loss, normal pace for you? are you someone who looses in spirts, holds for a while, then looses again?
ReplyDeleteBe very careful of the AFTERS, this coming week is likely to be more hazardous than last week.
I well identified with finding yourself on the defense. that happens a lot if we let it. I think we have to learn the skill of not having anyone think it is their business or is an okay topic. In my opinion, once we open this can of worms, people think it is okay to comment all the time. This is a boundary issue. In my archives I have the story of the lady running at 5am:
http://baby-steps-v.blogspot.com/2010/10/boundaries.html
glad you posted, was wondering how things were going.
i cant remember but i do not think 6 is normal for me. i was at the gym a ton this week, my guess is this week will be a slow one after LW.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by the Afters?
i was really frustrated with all of the comments and really felt like i was on the offensive. as i have been thinking back over the week i keep recalling little comments or jabs on what i had brought to eat or that i was ordering egg whites and fruit. i am working on shutting it out!
i am going to check out your post!
AFTERS are what happens when we think we are past something. It is like we hold on tight, try hard, pay attention to get through something. then when we think we are past the danger zone and things have eased up, THE AFTERS bite us in the butt. It is probably all that pent up emotion, energy, frustration, worry, lack of sleep. IF we are not careful, we then make very bad decisions in the AFTERS. Or we just act impulsively because we are just plain tired of thinking. This is a very common trend in people who yoyo or have regain.
ReplyDeletehttp://baby-steps-v.blogspot.com/2011/07/self-love-and-boundaries.html
ReplyDeleteIt is more than shutting comments out. It is about setting oneself up, gracefully, so they do not happen. People have gone through this with food comments, exercise comments, etc.
ReplyDeleteThe most recent one I can remember is Laura's mother having this ritual about getting on the scale at Laura's house and then discussing weight. It made Laura very uncomfortable. I suggested - Laura, move/hide the scale! Her mother never looked for the scale again, never commented on its being gone, stopped the ritual. Laura didn't have to have an arguement over it. She didn't have to get nasty. She didn't have to avoid her mom. She just needed to install the boundary and get proactive. Most of the time we put ourself in position of offense or defense. I am talking about getting rid of the game all together.